Thought that I would explain to you guy's and girl's out there what I meant in my last blog about the DEVIL'S WEB. I got to thinking about my life, and I figured that there has to be more folks like myself going through this.
It starts with having kids out of wed-lock. Then to move on to a new relationship, only to repeat this same UN-GODLY sin. Now our kids are blessings and I would never take mine back for the world. But the WEB that we create whether consciously, or subconsciously is not how it is intended to be, or is it?
The way I came up with this saying the DEVILS WEB is simple, but confusing as your web grows. Now for example, I will let y'all in on a little something. I have two kids out of wed-lock, by two different women, and they have both moved on to get married. Baby mother #1 had a son after she married, not sure if she has anymore at this time. But she does have step children. Baby mother #2 did not have any children from here husband, but has two step children. Not sure if she plans on having anymore children either. I don't get along with either of them at this time, but I have been open to just about anything, as to how the kids can start to develop relationships. Still following? This is what I call the DEVIL'S WEB. Baby mother #1 son is my oldest daughter's brother, but not related to Baby mother #2 daughter, that we conceived together. See what I mean about the DEVIL'S WEB, not the kids, but the drama that comes with it. Don't no why there is so much hate from the adult side of things!!! but I always felt like we should at least communicate for the kids sake. But because the web is so big none of the adults can ever agree to anything civil.
Try to follow me cause it can get pretty confusing. Now take baby mom #1, say for instance her son grows up goes to college at college A for example. Now take baby mom #2 and the daughter we conceived, and say she ends up at college A to like baby mom#1 son, of no relation to each other, but do share a sister though. Now say those two hook up and marry what does that make there sister in common? See this is the Devil's Web, and I know understand why god wants us to marry once, and have kids with one women. Oh not to mention just think if either of my babies mom's get a divorce, and get re-married and have kids the Web would really grow then. WOW! You following me so far ?
I guess in a perfect world we are supposed to get married just once and have children after marriage, and stay married forever. Now when i was in my twenties I had no foundation to really understand marriage. Or understanding how this could affect me if I didn't marry before having children. I grew up differently than most basically raising myself from age 8, crazy right? All I truly saw was friends and there parents being married, but never could relate on a personal level. I do remember thinking though must be nice to have to parents that are married and who love each other.
I will not bore you to much with my past, but all I ever seen as far as my family. Was my oldest brother having kids out of wed-lock at 17, with 3 different mothers of his 3 kids. Then shortly after my other brother followed. He is married now, but he also had kids by 2 different women, his wife, and another women. Now if I have learned anything it's to be married, and to make it work because the drama that could follow could be a lot more harsh, than setting aside differences to save a marriage. Now I know someone will educate me on the whole marriage, and divorce bit, but I do know I face more drama not being married vs. being married. I would rather work out a problem, then to be caught in the DEVIL"S WEB.
I once was asked the question, "would I like to have more kids". And my reply was "yes", but not out of wed-lock. Even still the DEVIL'S WEB would be larger. Please tell me what you think?
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